What is my approach?
The roots of family therapy in London are closely tied to Group Analysis and I have followed developments in family therapy. Couples appreciate the way the Group Analytic approach interweaves attention to the systemic, the analytic and events in the real world.
Everyone is different but it is amazing how often couples find themselves in their own version of the stuck circular conundrum ‘He drinks because she nags and she nags because he drinks.’
The first thing is to step out of any familiar rut and see the misunderstandings that permeate the relationship.
People sometimes unconsciously behave in their relationships how they behaved at home as it is what feels intuitively right. Others behave the opposite way, from a well-founded wish to be different from their parents. Either way this can get in the way of creating the authentic relationship that the couple set out to have.
Outside pressures such as demanding jobs, bereavement, and financial and childcare stress can overload and poison a caring relationship. Encouraging a couple to attend to these seemingly intractable problems might at times be as important as talking about the issues between them.
What does it look like?
I will meet with one or both of you to get a full picture of the difficulties. Where there are clear issues between the two of you we will probably work as a couple but also where there are ideas that I think it would be helpful for me to explore with one of you we will do that individually.
I run occasional events for couples I have had contact with.
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